Archives for October 2009

Does distance affect relationships? A question asked by many and the answer ranges from peotical to dramatical to realistic…. I feel it does…. I met my two best friends after a log time yesterday…. I confess that there was emotion missing…. I don’t say completely…. but, the intensity was lost…. I couldn’t tell that to them when they sent messages that they were glad we met but it would have been better if we spent more time… what if I was the only one who felt like that and they still had the intensity? Simple things can get quite complicated sometimes right? Personally I feel we could get back to the same level of intensity if we spend more time together… a person’s presence is very important for the relationship to blossom and sustain…. All those who think distance does not matter… kindly be honest to yourself…

Update (24/7/11): True distance might affect the relationship. But, if that particular relationship is important to you, then you should work to keep it alive. I’ve now experienced that relationships can endure, exist and thrive even in the absence of the person. Very glad to realize that.

In the same conversation Santosh referred to an incident he faced last week… When he was in college… he and his friends went for a long drive to Gandipet, they apparantly became good friends there after spending quality time together… and while coming back they vowed that they would return to the same place when they were settled…. and last week they did… but he confessed that he felt no emotion… he said… it would have been better we had not gone there… we were stone cold… I doubt if anybody felt anything at all for eachother… I would atleast have had a good memory, had I not gone there… he asked… why does it happen? why do we become like this? What answer should I give him? What answer would you give him? I could only say…. I experienced the same…. but why does it happen?? Anyone???

Santosh came the other day… we were discussing how our work lives were… he suddenly asked… is this it? is this life? get up…. go to work.. come home… and the next day the schedule repeats… thats it? is this what we looked forward for when we were in college? is this life? (mind you santosh loved his job….) I could only acknowledge how he felt and told him that we were travelling in the same boat… I didnt know the answer to his question… do you?